Mansex often skirts around taboo issues. How far is too far? When is the line crossed? Buddies often share their red hot gray area experiences with Your Bearded Confidant. Why not add your two cents and judge whether these scenarios are out of bounds:


Is this cheating?
A buddy shares: "My boyfriend came home from his workout the other day, and though I was horny he begged off fucking me. I asked him why he wasn't in the mood, and he admitted he was tapped out (his words). Apparently, he and his workout partner rub each other down after their workout. He said that they don't touch each other's dicks, but that sometimes he has a spontaneous orgasm from the rubdown. I feel uncomfortable about this situation. Should I make an issue of it, or should I just chill?"

1. A man can't control a spontaneous orgasm. A post-workout rubdown isn't an illicit affair, so don't worry about it.

2. If your boyfriend is having orgasms (spontaneous or not) with another man, it subtracts from your sex life together. It's definitely an issue.

3. You should consider going to the gym with your boyfriend. Why should he work out and rub down another man when he could be getting in shape and getting off with his own boyfriend?

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Is this incest?
Another buddy writes: "My brother and I have jacked off together ever since we were kids. Now that we're both in college and both between boyfriends, we've been 'practicing' on each other to perfect our oral and anal techniques as well as our sexual stamina. What's great about it is how fun our sex is—we're both on the same wavelength, and often it seems we can read each other's dirty minds. But sometimes after we fuck I worry that we shouldn't be fooling around so intensely. Is what we're doing wrong?"


1. Brothers play together as kids and should be free to play together as adults.

2. Jacking and sucking off a brother is no big deal, but save butt fucking for a real boyfriend.

3. Jacking off with a brother is innocent, but both oral and anal sex are too hardcore.

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A buddy shared a conundrum with his boyfriend, who works as an erotic photographer.  His boyfriend has to keep his naked models hard and horny throughout the photo shoot.  That means giving their cocks assistance with his hands and tongue.  My buddy considers this behavior cheating, while the boyfriend swears it doesn't count as sex.  The boyfriend says he can even prove that it's not sex, because his models always ejaculate solo.  In other words, they bring themselves past the point of no return, with no intimate tugging or sucking from the photographer.  Vote on your perspective:

1. It's certainly erotic to act as a fluffer for a naked model, but fluffing isn't the same as having sex.  It's very nearly having sex, but it's not cheating.

2. It's cheating if you have another man's cock in your hands or mouth, whether or not you're touching him when he cums.

3. Erotic photography is a great job for keeping your boyfriend hot and horny after work.  There's nothing to worry about.

4. Being around gorgeous guys in your day job is the first step to cheating.  Even if your boyfriend hasn't fucked one of his models, a red-blooded man can resist temptation for only so long.

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Mansex often skirts around taboo issues. How far is too far? When is the line crossed? Buddies often share their red hot gray area experiences with Your Bearded Confidant. Why not add your two cents and judge whether these scenarios are out of bounds:


Is this date rape?
A buddy shares how he invited a straight friend over for beers and a DVD. When his friend fell asleep, our buddy admits to unbuttoning the man's jeans and fondling his dick. He also admits to hoping his friend would get drunk.

Your vote:

1. Deliberately getting a friend drunk and then molesting him definitely crosses the line.
2. Guys getting drunk together and then fooling around may be unwise but it isn't immoral.

Is this incest?
A buddy shares how he and his brother like to dry hump one another when they're home from college. They snuggle together after they've both cum, though they've never deep kissed, butt fucked, or sucked one another off.

Your vote:

1. Dry humping isn't the same as intercourse. Fooling around without penetration is hardly sex at all and isn't incest.
2. If two brothers get sperm on each other, it's sex and it's incest.
3. Sibling revelry is better than sibling rivalry. If lube and condoms aren't necessary, it's harmless.

Mansex often skirts around taboo issues. How far is too far? When is the line crossed? Buddies often share their red hot gray area experiences with Your Bearded Confidant. Why not add your two cents and judge whether these scenarios are out of bounds:


Is this incest?
A buddy shares that he often takes steamy showers with his brother, typically after they do sweaty yard work or outdoor sports together. They sometimes lather each other up, including their genitals. Their cocks get hard but they don't masturbate. They do sometimes insert a finger when they soap up each other's asses.

Your vote:

1. It's not incest if there's no masturbation to orgasm.
2. Any genital or anal touching counts as incest.
3. Bathing together is a natural and beautiful experience for brothers.
4. It wouldn't be incest except for the finger fucking.

Is this improper?
A buddy shares how his boyfriend refuses to throw away an ex-lover's semen-encrusted cum rag. He has caught his boyfriend sniffing the cum rag while jerking off.

Your vote:

1. Sniffing spent cum isn't the same as cheating. The cum rag is a sexy j/o tool—nothing to be jealous over.
2. Keeping a ex's cum rag is evidence of a lingering attachment. It's a bad sign.

Mansex often skirts around taboo issues. How far is too far? When is the line crossed? Buddies often share their red hot gray area experiences with Your Bearded Confidant. Why not add your two cents and judge whether these scenarios are out of bounds:


Is this incest?
A buddy shares how he gets off with his brother: They stand face to face, cock to cock. Each brother jerks his own dick. Whoever ejaculates first aims his cumshot onto his brother's hardon, and the jizz acts as lube to trigger the second orgasm. Note that the brothers never touch one another's bodies during their jerk off sessions. But they do splash each other with cum.

Your vote:

1. It's not incest if there's no physical touching.
2. Jerking off is sexual but doesn't amount to "having sex" and so isn't incest.
3. Jerking off together is a universal phenomenon and shouldn't be taboo.
4. Getting splashed by your brother's cum counts as incest.
5. If two or more brothers' dicks are out and spurting off, it's incest.

Is this cheating?
A buddy shares how he walked in on his boyfriend committing some hanky panky with another man. His boyfriend was sitting on a sofa, fully clothed, with the other man lying naked across his lap. His boyfriend was massaging the chest and tweaking the nipples of the naked man as the naked man jerked off. His boyfriend insisted that the session didn't qualify as "cheating."

Your vote:

1. If you have a naked stranger in your lap, it's cheating.
2. A chest massage may be erotic, but it's not an act of infidelity.
3. Tweaking a man's tits while he masturbates is a sex act, and it's cheating.
4. Both men would need to be naked for this scenario to cross the line.
5. If he had licked the cum off the naked man's chest then it would have been cheating.

Is this rape?
A buddy shares how his boyfriend likes to sneak up on him, tackle him to the floor, rip off his pants, and hold his mouth closed while buttfucking him. Our buddy admits that he doesn't resist these attacks.

Your vote:

1. If it's not consensual sex, it's rape, plain and simple.
2. When two boyfriends play out a forced sex fantasy, it's not rape.
3. The sneak attack takes this scenario out of a forced-sex fantasy and into rape territory, whether or not the bottom man resists.