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What's the Difference Between "Fluffing" and Sex?

 tags: Interactive, Polls, Red Hot Gray Areas

A buddy shared a conundrum with his boyfriend, who works as an erotic photographer.  His boyfriend has to keep his naked models hard and horny throughout the photo shoot.  That means giving their cocks assistance with his hands and tongue.  My buddy considers this behavior cheating, while the boyfriend swears it doesn't count as sex.  The boyfriend says he can even prove that it's not sex, because his models always ejaculate solo.  In other words, they bring themselves past the point of no return, with no intimate tugging or sucking from the photographer.  Vote on your perspective:

1. It's certainly erotic to act as a fluffer for a naked model, but fluffing isn't the same as having sex.  It's very nearly having sex, but it's not cheating.

2. It's cheating if you have another man's cock in your hands or mouth, whether or not you're touching him when he cums.

3. Erotic photography is a great job for keeping your boyfriend hot and horny after work.  There's nothing to worry about.

4. Being around gorgeous guys in your day job is the first step to cheating.  Even if your boyfriend hasn't fucked one of his models, a red-blooded man can resist temptation for only so long.

Car Wash Cutie by Dirty Boy Video
Car Wash Cutie (Dirty Boy Video) Watch video »

Red Hot Gray Areas in the Gym and Bunkbed

 tags: Interactive, Polls, Red Hot Gray Areas

Mansex often skirts around taboo issues. How far is too far? When is the line crossed? Buddies often share their red hot gray area experiences with Your Bearded Confidant. Why not add your two cents and judge whether these scenarios are out of bounds:

Is this cheating?
A buddy shares: "My boyfriend came home from his workout the other day, and though I was horny he begged off fucking me. I asked him why he wasn't in the mood, and he admitted he was tapped out (his words). Apparently, he and his workout partner rub each other down after their workout. He said that they don't touch each other's dicks, but that sometimes he has a spontaneous orgasm from the rubdown. I feel uncomfortable about this situation. Should I make an issue of it, or should I just chill?"

1. A man can't control a spontaneous orgasm. A post-workout rubdown isn't an illicit affair, so don't worry about it.

2. If your boyfriend is having orgasms (spontaneous or not) with another man, it subtracts from your sex life together. It's definitely an issue.

3. You should consider going to the gym with your boyfriend. Why should he work out and rub down another man when he could be getting in shape and getting off with his own boyfriend?

Tyler Reed and Rob Morse by BreedMeRaw
Tyler Reed & Bob Morse (Breed Me Raw)

Is this incest?
Another buddy writes: "My brother and I have jacked off together ever since we were kids. Now that we're both in college and both between boyfriends, we've been 'practicing' on each other to perfect our oral and anal techniques as well as our sexual stamina. What's great about it is how fun our sex is—we're both on the same wavelength, and often it seems we can read each other's dirty minds. But sometimes after we fuck I worry that we shouldn't be fooling around so intensely. Is what we're doing wrong?"

1. Brothers play together as kids and should be free to play together as adults.

2. Jacking and sucking off a brother is no big deal, but save butt fucking for a real boyfriend.

3. Jacking off with a brother is innocent, but both oral and anal sex are too hardcore.

Ariel & Jack by BelAmi
Ariel & Jack (BelAmi)

Bareback or Not? - #5

 tags: Anal Sex, Interactive

Can you tell whether these guys are bareback fucking or if they're using a condom?  Click on the photo to remove the question mark and find out the answer!

Poll: What Happens First in Bed?

 tags: Anal Sex, Interactive, Oral Sex, Polls


Poll: Jacking Off in the Car

 tags: Interactive, Polls, Ways to Jack Off

Julien Hussey by BelAmi
Julien Hussey (BelAmi)