Mansex often skirts around taboo issues. How far is too far? When is the line crossed? Buddies often share their red hot gray area experiences with Your Bearded Confidant. Why not add your two cents and judge whether these scenarios are out of bounds:

Is this cheating?
A buddy shares: "My boyfriend came home from his workout the other day, and though I was horny he begged off fucking me. I asked him why he wasn't in the mood, and he admitted he was tapped out (his words). Apparently, he and his workout partner rub each other down after their workout. He said that they don't touch each other's dicks, but that sometimes he has a spontaneous orgasm from the rubdown. I feel uncomfortable about this situation. Should I make an issue of it, or should I just chill?"

1. A man can't control a spontaneous orgasm. A post-workout rubdown isn't an illicit affair, so don't worry about it.

2. If your boyfriend is having orgasms (spontaneous or not) with another man, it subtracts from your sex life together. It's definitely an issue.

3. You should consider going to the gym with your boyfriend. Why should he work out and rub down another man when he could be getting in shape and getting off with his own boyfriend?

Tyler Reed and Rob Morse by BreedMeRaw
Tyler Reed & Bob Morse (Breed Me Raw)

Is this incest?
Another buddy writes: "My brother and I have jacked off together ever since we were kids. Now that we're both in college and both between boyfriends, we've been 'practicing' on each other to perfect our oral and anal techniques as well as our sexual stamina. What's great about it is how fun our sex is—we're both on the same wavelength, and often it seems we can read each other's dirty minds. But sometimes after we fuck I worry that we shouldn't be fooling around so intensely. Is what we're doing wrong?"

1. Brothers play together as kids and should be free to play together as adults.

2. Jacking and sucking off a brother is no big deal, but save butt fucking for a real boyfriend.

3. Jacking off with a brother is innocent, but both oral and anal sex are too hardcore.

Ariel & Jack by BelAmi
Ariel & Jack (BelAmi)