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Proof that Your Dick is the Center of the Universe

 tags: Cocks, Here's What It Looks Like

Undressing with the Eyes

 tags: Eyes

It can happen anywhere, when you least expect it. You're minding your own business, lost in thought, when suddenly your eyes lock with another man's gaze. That twinkle you see isn't just a figure of speech—it's an electrical impulse that passes between you. A friend of mine with a penetrating gaze confirms that he has actually seen a flash of light emanate from the eyes. "It is as rare as the sighting of a rainbow," he says, "but it happens." In that fleeting moment, time seems to stand still and all sorts of things are communicated man to man, such as:
  • I see you. I acknowledge you as my fellow man, as my brother.
  • I see deep inside you. I recognize you as a sexual being.
  • We share the same passion; I know what you are yearning for.
  • It is our masculine birthright to seek out others to share and satisfy our burning desires.
  • Don't be afraid. I'm not going to bite you unless you'd like that.
  • If I don't shoot off soon my balls are going to explode.
  • Where's the nearest men's room?
As my friend observed, "If you look at the driver in the car next to you when you stop at a red light, that person will instantly sense your gaze and turn toward you. It is a universal and uncanny phenomenon. This fact alone is proof of psychic awareness and the power of the human gaze."

Sometimes, when I catch myself locked in these primal gazes, I turn away quickly. A deep part of me understands the power of this contact and knows that I am fully capable of acting upon it. I instinctively sense that if the gaze were to go on any longer, it would pull me physically toward that man. We would become predatory animals on a mission to satisfy our sexual hunger. Such feelings can be frightening to a civilized man, reminding him of the fine line between self-control and promiscuity. Anyone who has ever felt horny knows that a man can be taken hold by something that goes beyond the mind and body. It goes beyond the mind because intellect has nothing to do with it, meaning that horniness can bring about actions that are totally illogical. It goes beyond the body because horniness is not always satisfied by a physical orgasm. That something that takes hold of us is energy—sexual energy. It is a powerful force that propels us to merge with or melt into another person in ecstatic communion. This energy usually involves the genitals, but not necessarily. Mere eye contact between two horny men can sweep them off their feet and down on all fours.

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Some people believe that these moments of eye contact are spiritual reunions of a sort: old souls remembering a familiarity, seeing through the masks of this lifetime to shared experiences from other times and places. I think there is a truth there, whether or not one believes in reincarnation. The truth is that there is an acknowledgment of something shared. Our eyes are mirrors for one another in which we recognize the many roles all men play: son, brother, father or father-figure, comrade, colleague, confidant, lover, and horny devil looking for trouble. One twinkling exchange can reveal so much that it's no wonder you might feel overwhelmed and turn away. To hold that gaze might even reveal too much about yourself—things that you haven't fully admitted or acknowledged in your own nature. You might legitimately feel vulnerable under such conditions.

Entire books have been written to explain why men don't like face-to-face communication as much as women do. It is easier for men to let their hair down, so to speak, lined up at a bar than facing one another in a booth. A man's face, and particularly his eyes, expose his thoughts and plans. To look another man in the eye is often considered threatening or provoking, most likely an instinct inherited from the animal kingdom. Men, like other predatory animals, have eyes set right on the front of their heads so they can use binocular vision to track their prey, while their prey have eyes at the sides of their heads so as to catch predators sneaking up on them. The only time other men ever look me directly in the eye for more than a fleeting moment is when they know me or think they know me. And that brings us back to the power of the twinkling glance and the deep familiarity it communicates. A held glance forces down the protective psychological walls we've build around ourselves, as well as the masks our egos have created in search of personal uniqueness. Familiarity says, "Don't put on airs around me—we go way back, and I've seen you at your best and at your worst." Depending upon how desperately we grab onto those walls and masks, a held gaze can seem like an invasion. Or it can seem like long-awaited lover gently pulling back the sheets with one hand while jacking up an erection with the other.

It's good for eye-to-eye exchanges to feel profound, for they are. They carry on an ancient tradition, as old as mankind, in which men celebrate their masculinity with the only people who can fully appreciate and understand it—other men. But in addition to camaraderie, improved eye-contact helps us grow in compassion. "I try to see the beauty in everyone and I make my own beauty freely available," my friend says. "It is easy to feel attraction to a human form that is conventionally beautiful, but I try to see the beauty in the commonplace or conventionally ugly. I try to understand why a human soul chooses to express itself in a less than perfect way and I usually discern a sad tale of oppression, of outside forces that thwart, twist and distort the natural loveliness of the human body. It is sad because such tales are unnecessary: if we just let others be themselves, they would be radiant and beautiful. But some of us don't and some of us aren't."

Here's a suggestion: make it a point to try to initiate eye contact with as many men as possible when you go out. Hold the gaze only long enough to feel that chill go up your spine. With your eyes, say this: I see you, my fellow man. I recognize you as my brother. I sense your aura of masculine virility because I'm broadcasting it, too. Our passion is the same. Our birthright is to share it. And we do share it, with every glance.

from Best Men 2: The Wedding Party by Falcon Studios
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How to Detect a Bottom Man

 tags: Asses

Can you tell a top man from a bottom by the way he displays his ass?  Check out the middle guy in this photo.  He instantly went into a "down on all fours" position and lifted his ass to expose and align the fuckhole for easy penetration.  Our guess is that the middle guy is the true bottom of the three.

Jerk-Off Rooms at Work

 tags: Michael Ian Black, Ways to Jack Off

Comedian Michael Ian Black suggests: "Instead of expensive health insurance, here's a cheap idea businesses can offer their employees: jerk-off rooms."

Cody Springs by Badpuppy
Cody Springs by Badpuppy
Cody Springs (Badpuppy)

Also, don't miss today's new Advice column by Your Bearded Confidant: "How to Top Without Tearing Up His Ass."

First Date Tips

 tags: Armpits, Dating, Feet, Romance

Parker and Rod by CruiserBoys
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On a first date, playing footsie under the dinner table is not only acceptable but recommended. If your man is wearing sandals, don't hesitate to "scissor" your toes with his (sliding your big toe over his big toe and your index toe under his foot).

Even if you're usually clean-cut, don't shave on the morning of your date. The tactility of beard stubble will add to your man's pleasure when you nestle your face against his chest, under his arms, and between his thighs.

As you pull your man’s shirt over his head, take a deliberate, leisurely sniff of one of his armpits. (It is appropriate to make a subtle yet audible purr of approval and contentment.) Leaving him wanting more—save full tongue baths for the second date.

What should you whisper into your man's ear as you make out? Forget sweet nothings and whisper dirty somethings! Whisper that he smells fucking gorgeous, like a luscious mango worthy of sucking dry. Whisper that he feels hard like a man in a dream. Whisper all your nastiest sperm terms.