Dear Bearded Confidant,

Hi.  I am a bisexual male and I've had this friend that I've been horny for for awhile.  He is straight to the fullest.  We jerk off together all the time, but he will not even let me see his cock while we do it.  I'm wondering how I can further this and at least be able to see and touch his cock and at most get to suck him.  How can I go about this without ruining our friendship or scaring him off?

Dear Horny and Curious,

If your j/o buddy is truly straight and a friend you don't want to lose, you must tread very carefully as you attempt to advance your friendship into more intimately sexual territory.  With the slightest misstep on your part, you could ruin your friendship in mere seconds.  From what you shared, I'm imagining that the two of you jack off together while watching straight porn, each with your hands down your own pants.  Your question is how to get his cock out into the fresh air where you could at least admire it.  Given your situation, I recommend the "lead and they will follow" technique.  Bring your own cock out into the open.  Mutter to yourself that your pants are too tight and are cutting off your circulation, then unzip and pull them down your legs just a bit.  Don't make a big issue of it—don't toss your pants across the room.  But get your cock out there.  Demonstrate that you're not uptight about being naked in front of your buddy.  Don't expect him to follow suit immediately.  He may very well whip out his cock after you do, or it make take several sessions for him to build up the confidence.  Once you break the ice, though, things might just warm up a bit. 

If you watch straight porn together, I suggest quietly introducing some bisexual porn into the mix.  If your buddy sees two straight men fuck a woman and then show some tenderness to each other, it may open his eyes to the possibilities of masculine intimacy. Even bisexual porn that doesn't involve direct man-to-man action is recommended, and here's why: when two men fuck a woman simultaneously, one up her pussy and one up her ass, their cocks are mere millimeters away from each other, their balls swing against each other, and they thrust away as one man.  In other words, it's incredibly homoerotic, even if they never kiss or suck or fuck each other.  The bottom line is that you need to get your friend thinking about man-to-man sex, and if he thinks it's his own idea, he'll be more likely to act upon his urges with you.  All you can do without risking your friendship is demonstrating that you don't have any hangups about getting your dick in the open and watching bisexual action.  Then the ball (and balls) will be in his court.