Dear Bearded Confidant,

I have a problem that is tearing my sex life apart. I measure up to slightly over 6 1/2 inches, but the length is not the problem. It's the girth. Even while fully erect, my dick is very thin. I believe that this may be due to the fact that growing up, especially around the time I hit puberty, I was extremely overweight. I am now twenty years old, physically fit, and in shape. And VERY sexually active, with both men and women. The women don't seem to mind as much as the men, except one chick who actually asked me if I was in yet. But I have had two instances where the guy simply got dressed and walked out on me shortly after we got into bed together. I also play on the college hockey team and feel very uncomfortable changing in front of my teammates. I have also noticed that the biggest stud on our team has a dick that is slightly shorter than mine, but much thicker, and he constantly has someone trying to get in his pants. This is extremely nerve-racking and embarrassing for me, and it is destroying my sexuality and my masculinity. Do you have any suggestions on how to enlarge the thickness and help me save my sex life?

Dear Skinny,

Big thick cocks are fun to look at and even more fun to hold. They're fascinating to watch in porn movies, especially when talented individuals take on the task of taking on the whole cock down to the hilt. But that's just the problem—it takes a talented individual to be able to properly accommodate a big cock. A thick dick may be fun to lick, but taking it down the throat is another story altogether. A person may desire a big man inside of him, but getting him in there can be more of a challenge than a thrill. A thin penis is easy to blow, and it leaves room for some erotic tongue action inside that hot mouth. A thin penis slides inside an ass more quickly and easily than a thick one, ensuring less prep work and more time and energy for actual fucking. Yes, you can increase the girth of your penis (see my archive on how to increase penis size, because the same techniques increase both length and girth). But why make yourself harder to handle? If your sex partners are turned off by the thickness of your dick, you need to look for different friends.