“The Finer Points of Sexual Identity After Transgender Acceptance”
Dear Bearded Confidant,
Hey! This has been a weird 2 years. Let me start with I am transgender. I didn't know the definition of that word until I looked it up after we got internet at home this April, but I have been a boy at least since I told my best friend when I was 10. I had thought all my life I was the only one.
transgenders are transcenders. Transcending, of course, means going beyond the limits. You have no limits, and that's actually a whole lot to come to terms with. Neat and tidy definitions in life can be quite comforting, but they're simultaneously prison bars. I fully understand why you're asking yourself questions, why you're wondering if a straight man in a woman's body can and/or should fall in love with a gay dude (who himself is possibly a female spirit in a masculine body). But transgender transcenders get to be more metaphysical (by which I mean "beyond physical matter") than the average guys. Looking past physicality, you're a soul unhindered by sex organs, and you're feeling love for another soul in any sort of body. Labels simply don't matter here — they're purely arbitrary and wholly illusional. Bodies don't matter here, because you're feeling something much deeper — a soul-to-soul connection. By all means, get to know this soul better. Maybe he'll turn out to be an ideal life partner for you, and maybe not, but there's only one way to find out. There's absolutely no "right" or "wrong" person for you to commune with, and any labels you apply to yourself or to others are quite literally fetters, restraining you from self-determination. Don't be your own prison warden — live a limitless life. But to answer your question, "What the hell?" Yes! What the hell, why not?!