Dear Bearded Confidant,

I often wondered how it would feel to have sex.  I haven't had it yet but my former high school teacher and I were talking because we haven't seen each other for a long time and one thing lead to another and we up starting to do each other.  He did not stick it in,  but he did lick my ass hole, bit me and sucked my dick.  The problem is that I felt odd.  I felt as if I couldn't get ahold of my feelings, like I was in another world.  I wanted to know if this is common for someone's first time?

Dear Another World,

Never base anything on how you felt the first time.  When you're a virgin, you don't know what the fuck you're doing.  You get excited and nervous at the same time, and even though you're super-aroused your dick might not get hard enough to put on a condom, or you might not be able to cum when you get sucked, or you can't believe what another man's balls feel like even though you've spent years handling your own set.  When it's your first time with another man, you're likely to experience "performance anxiety."  Your actions are likely to be clumsy and awkward. On top of that, you haven't yet learned how to stimulate one another in the best possible way.  Every cock is different, and no two guys like exactly the same sort of stroke, the same grip pressure, or the same jacking speed or angle.  Anal sex is perhaps the most novel activity of all, and most guys (both tops and bottoms) say that it felt really weird the first time until they got used to the unique sensations.  The best sex (in terms of intimacy and romanticism) requires that both partners know one another well, understand and respect each other's boundaries, be familiar with every square inch of each other's bodies and which spots are the most sensitive, and feel comfortable and safe with each other. So allow yourself some time and practice, and pretty soon you'll know for sure what turns you on, what gives you the most pleasure, and what you'd like to try next.