Dear Bearded Confidant,

Don't know if you know anything about this, but my boyfriend is diabetic and causes problems in the bedroom getting a full and lasting erection. He is able to get it semi-hard only for a few seconds even if I give him oral sex.  We have tried porn, Viagara, as well as my giving him head, but nothing seems to work. Can't get him to see a doctor for help—he refuses to do it. His dick is now only about 3-4 inches.  He claims that at one time it was 7 inches and that the diabetes made it shrink. Is this possible for a diabetic to have a shrinking cock?  Do you have any suggestions on what we can try to get him to have a raging hardon?  Any help that you can give will be greatly appreciated.

Dear Anonymous,

Erectile dysfunction affects up to 75% of men with diabetes, but such dysfunction is treatable. The cock is just like a muscle—if you don't use it, it will shrink. That explains why your man's dick is smaller than it used to be. Your man's diabetes is likely affecting the blood vessels and nerves of his cock. That's why porn and oral sex aren't helping; it's not his hormone level that's the problem, but his physical ability to establish the proper blood flow to maintain an erection. Your man's diabetes is also affecting both of your lovelives. It is very important for your man and for your relationship that he be examined by a doctor. If he is unwilling to do this for himself and for you, you should seriously re-examine this relationship.