Dear Bearded Confidant,

Yes, I have a problem, and don't know what to do (well it's not really a problem, I don't really mind having these feelings).  I am heterosexual, but for the last few years I have been having these really STRONG urges to suck a guy off.  I know I am not gay, cause men don't turn me on at all, but these feelings are REALLY STRONG, and I REALLY want to act on them.  My first question is, should I act on these feelings? and the second is, how do I go about it?  I am really scared of disease, so how do I go about finding somone to experiment with?  I am so desperate, I am about to go to a gay bar in another town, and the first man I meet just go for it.  Finding someone clean to try it with is my biggest scare though.

Dear Mr. Should I,

You mentioned that men don't turn you on at all, and yet you have very strong cravings to take a man's cock down your throat.  That seems contradictory, since most people who are not turned on by men do NOT seek them out as sexual partners.  If you mean that you are not romantically attracted to men, that is fine.  A great many men fool around with their fellow men, letting off sexual steam in a physical way but never experiencing feelings of love for one another.  However, if you are perhaps a bit conflicted about your feelings toward other men, you should do some soul searching before you start to act on your urges to protect both yourself and your future partners from getting emotionally hurt.  There is nothing wrong with being turned on by other men.  All men share similar masculine impulses, and seeing another man who is sexually aroused will automatically arouse you because you naturally relate to masculine sexuality.  Taking a man's cock in your mouth is one of the most profoundly intimate acts you can do, and it should not be done lightly.  Yes, it is important to protect your health.  For that reason, your first cock should belong to a man that you know (not a total stranger who may be very promiscuous), and you should perform oral sex with a condom.