Dear Bearded Confidant,

My lover and I have been in a monogamous relationship for ten years. Last year I had to have my prostate removed because of cancer. We knew this would affect our sex life, but we didn't realize how much. Now I can't get an erection and I don't ejaculate, but it is still possible for me to achieve an orgasm. We had such a wonderful life together and enjoyed oral sex so very much. Of course, I still enjoy giving my lover a blowjob, but he wants to start swallowing my urine. The idea excits me, but I am not sure it would be safe. Please advise us what to do.

Dear Pee Shy,

I am glad to hear that you have discovered that it is still possible to enjoy orgasms even without erections or ejaculation. Indeed, orgasm and ejaculation are two distinct processes which usually coincide but don't have to. I presume that you and your lover are monogamous and healthy, and if this is the case then I encourage you to enjoy sharing urine. Of course, any sharing of any fluids can transmit disease, but if you are healthy then there are unlikely to be any negative side effects of feeding your piss to your lover.