Dear Bearded Confidant,

First of all, I really love your advice. I hope you can answer my question.  I'm really into latex and leather clothes, but not the whole master/slave bit. Are there any clubs, sites, or places I can contact for me. I would  really love your help. 

Dear Likes it Tight,

Unfortunately, fetishes such as latex and leather tend to be quite extreme.  You like the look of those fetishes, but you don't want to participate in what they're all about.  However, if you go out dressed in the gear of a particular fetish, you are sending the signal that you are into the activities associated with them, and you might find yourself caught up in a situation that you didn't bargain for.  My advice is to enjoy such extreme fetishes from the safety of the Internet and fetish DVDs.  You've heard the old saying, "If you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen."